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The past is a place of reference not a place of residence

I woke up a couple of days ago feeling unwell. And it made me very cross. I had a lot of things on my to-do list. but I just couldn’t do them. The flu-like symptoms I was experiencing (from a COVID vaccine) had simply floored me. As I hid under my blanket a thought struck me.

The reason why I was so cross with myself was that I been so well for a long time. That may sound a bit weird so let me explain. I have not been poorly for nearly 2 years. Not a sniff, tickle, ache, or pain. Healthy as a horse.

Lucky me I know, but I don’t believe this is a coincidence. Far from it. The reason I have been feeling so well is that I made a huge change in my life. I took the plunge and left a working environment that was harming me physically and emotionally and started my own business.

I haven’t looked back. I am happier, healthier, and stronger. And it’s not just me. Friends who know me have said I look younger and full of vitality.

Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives. Akshay Dubey

I always knew that stress and anxiety impact your physical and emotional wellness but never really thought further than that. It was something other people suffered from – stress. Burnout, crisis, call it what you want. I did not see that it also applied to me. And when life is ticking along you seem to be more easily able to cope with things, even the big issues. When you are feeling well and balanced you feel in control and the bumps in the road are just that, bumps that are easily navigated. But when something is not right, or when you feel out of sorts, worried, or anxious, cracks start to appear. And if you are like me you carry on, put up with the discomfort, get on with “life” and hope that it will just go away. But things rarely go away by themselves. Just as the red warning light on your car’s dashboard you can ignore these signs, but you do so at your peril. The discomfort grows. You become more anxious. You begin to feel pain. Emotional and Physical. When it doesn’t it starts to cause more pain, more physical problems, more emotional difficulties. I ignored ALL these signs for years. I just didn’t realise how far the gradual worsening of my overall health and wellbeing had gone until it threatened to become chronic and harmful.

What triggered y release from this downward spiral was a chat with a friend who happened to be a life coach. I had regular sessions with other people who were helping me manage my symptoms like the pain in my back (Osteopath), my blood pressure (my GP), and my mental resilience (Homeopath), but it was only when I spoke to someone who helped me look at the bigger picture I was able to identify the root causes and do something about them. In my case, it was changing my job and career but also helping me manage my expectations of myself and focusing on what makes me happy.

For us to be happy, content and complete individuals all the areas of our wellness need to be in balance. Recently a client I work with suddenly saw the connections in her own self. How one part of her life affects others. She developed a plan to work on her own root causes and is now happily making the changes she needs.

Back to my illness. Thankfully, that was very short. It gave me a timely reminder to check in with myself and actively manage my life. Keep doing the things that energise me and excite me. Live life to the full. And saying goodbye to harmful situations and people. But it also showed me how far I have travelled from the unwell, anxious, and unhappy person I was to the vibrant, fulfilling life I have now. Yes, problems still crop up, but they get sorted out. I am thankful for all the good things that I have, and I no longer take for granted my wellness. I celebrate it. My mantra is now fully “enjoy life, have fun, help others”.

Life coaching could help you. If you think it might contact us for a free chat.



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